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Dino

Ah yes, Lobolo. We remember it well. That wonderfully quaint tradition by which the poor are kept in poverty, whilst potential in-laws get greedier and greedier.

We've got friends who've been asked for cell phones, vehicles etc.

Foo Bar

Is necessary that kind of shit? Why can't he marry the girl and forget that nonsense? I mean, in current Zimbabwe's situation I would avoid any kind of unnecessary expenses...

Dave

Lobolo is just a tradition that indicates that a woman is very valuable to the family. In African tradition when a woman marries she is now part of her husbands family and is therefore not going to contribute any further to her biological family - after all the money you have spent on bring her up, educating her etc. It would be just the same for the men if they were leaving the family but the man is not seen to be leaving but instead his family is seen to be gaining a member.

It may seem like a cold transaction to a Westerner but perhaps you should better understand African cultures before writing sensationalist articles/comments.

In such economic times in Zim there is no reason to be ‘selling’ your daughter off short – the additional penalty just serves as another much needed deterrent to men who do not fully understand the consequences of an unplanned pregnancy.

Ommoder

The family has to show that the daughter is precious to her - but not necessarily in terms of money. Often the pride of the bride herselve depends on the amount of lobola. But I have heard there are women emancipated enough that they tell their parents to only ask for symbolic lobola. It is possible.

Joy

Gumbo is not a defeated man. 1 Judith is pregnant
2 He will come back, and this time it will be a different story because Judith will be with a baby in her hands, and the baby will be named after one of the in-laws, this will make their hearts softer and later changed to one of the Gumbo family member's name.This is to please the old man Gumbo.

3 Judith is not going to stay at her parent's house she will leave for her poor Gumbo.
Gumbo was suposed to check with Judith and her Aunties before going to face the in-laws.

For those who are planning to get married, you are advised to go Kwachiadzwa if you cannot then you remain with two options to take Mugabe out of power or not to provoke vakazvara vakadzidzisa vana vavo.Because we will not stop charging vakwasha mari yatinoda inokwanisa kutipa hufu uye nemucherechodzo wekuti tine mwana akaroorwa.

Regai kumitisa ndapota kuti musazoripiswa chero vakada mari sei avaripise pasina mhosva.

Steve

come on Gumbo just leave the poor girl for someone one else
there are many desperate girl's in Zimbabwe for marriage
our prospective in-laws are just a greedy lot
u might discover that Judith's dad also damaged her mother

ntombi

greedy parents. why should gumbo pay 4 her parents educating her?, thats not his responsibility an he has a child to look after. did they think about that. anyway traditionally you pay lobola for the children your wife will have. not all the nonsense on their shopping list

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